Have you ever seen a movie or read a book that just sticks with you? A few years ago, my sister-in-law kept telling me about this movie that I needed to watch. The movie was called (affiliate link :-)) Fireproof based off the book, or more like based around the book, (affiliate link :-)) The Love Dare. Finally while in town and at her house, I had the chance to watch and it and WOW! If you haven’t had the chance to see it yet, you can currently watch it via Netflix or I saw it on amazon for $5 for purchase and less for renting, too. It’s definitely worth the watch! It’s one of those movies that may be slightly uncomfortable to watch at first because it points out feelings you may be having about your own marriage or relationship, but by the end of the movie, you will feel awesome or a strong desire to be more awesome!
Fun Fact: Kirk Cameron is one of the main actors and I love his moral integrity when it comes to acting and life in general. He is one actor that holds to his standards and makes his acting work with them instead of tossing them aside for the gig. According to IMDB, Kirk “received no financial compensation whatsoever for acting in Fireproof (2008), and does not accept any royalties from the film.” As you can tell, I’m super impressed with him!
Day 17 – Challenge
I joined in on a The Love Dare Challenge (see details below) and picked the lucky Day 17 because that is the day my hubby and I got married. After 10 years of marriage, I can admit that we always have room for improvement. Always! This particular challenge I found a little difficult for me to put into words. A few thoughts and questions that came to my head as I was reading this chapter…Do you feel emotionally safe sharing whatever with your spouse? Do you talk when your spouse gets home at the end of the day?
Being emotionally vulnerable (i.e. sharing dreams, thoughts, not feeling like you have to walk on eggshells, not ashamed, etc) can be really hard to achieve. In my case, I love to talk, but I’ll keep that kind of stuff to myself for the most part. My husband, on the other hand, has a job where he talks and listens to others all day. By the time he gets home his brain is t.i.r.e.d. and is in no mood to talk much, so I decided for a long time not to burden him with a lot of “my thoughts.” I thought I was for the best, but in our case I feel like it was holding us back too. The author points out that “regardless of your situation, love can help you discover intimacy with your spouse.” Our Heavenly Father loves us warts and all and we should strive to achieve that sort of relationship with our spouse and of course, you always have to start with you. Show patience, show love, show acceptance. Remembering that this is a 1 day challenge and after a lot of thinking, I decided to throw all caution to the wind and give a few things a try…
- I decided to have no expectations on how our conversations or on how anything else should go when my hubby gets home from work and be available to listen and not judge.
- My goal is to just let him be him, ask him for help if I need it (and not assume he sees chaos and will jump in! lol) and to love him.
The results…I did not really expect to see anything that particular night (because I didn’t have any expectations, right?!?) and maybe it was because I had been thinking about it for a few days and/or trying a few of the other previous days challenges. But what happened, we had an excellent night and have been having pretty good nights since. He usually comes home exhausted and that night he came home and actually started a conversation. I was pleasantly surprised and have no regrets!
This has been getting kind of fun and encourage anyone and everyone to give these daily challenges a look and a try no matter what state your marriage is in (excellent or in need of a jolt!). You won’t regret it either!
Take The Love Dare
If you want to follow along and take The Love Dare for yourself, you can find the previous weeks below. I have also created a Love Dare Pinterest board that you can follow along as well for future weeks.
Welcome to Week 3 of the Blogger Love Dare! I’m so thankful that you are here & I really hope you are finding new blogs & inspirational ladies to follow, but also – that you are staying up on each of the daily dares & seeing an improvement in yourself & in your marriage (troubled or not).
We’ve got a great line up of ladies & dares this week. Be sure to check all of their blogs daily for insight, inspiration and another perspective on relationships and marriage. Follow us on Instagram (#bloggerlovedare) to find out which blog to read each day!
Day 19: Love is Impossible
And there ya have it. 7 more AMAZING ladies; all here to share a fresh perspective and their journey through marriage. I hope you have found someone who caught your eye, who shares a similar story & ultimately someone you can reach out too. We are all here for you. Keep it up & BOOYAH for Week 3. See you on instagram #bloggerlovedare